Marnie Parkinson: Guide for parents navigating Christmas after a separation

The festive season, while magical for children, can bring unique challenges for separated parents.

Balancing emotions, family dynamics, and the wellbeing of your children requires careful thought.

Prioritise the children

No matter the complexities of your new family dynamic, the focus should remain on what’s best for your children.

Their happiness and emotional stability should be the guiding principle of all decisions.

Present a united front

If possible, aim to communicate and co-operate with your co-parent, especially during special occasions like Christmas.

Even if it takes effort (and perhaps some gritted teeth), showing unity offers comfort and stability to your kids.

Embrace the magic in both homes

If spending Christmas together isn’t feasible, remember your children can still experience the joy of the season in both households.

Double the magic doesn’t mean double the stress — it means creating warm, happy memories in both spaces.

Keep Santa’s magic alive

Whatever the circumstances, resist the urge to disrupt the joy and wonder of childhood traditions like believing in Santa.

Revealing “he’s not real” out of spite is unfair, and can hurt your child’s holiday experience.

Consider joint celebrations (if possible)

For families who can safely and amicably manage it, a joint Christmas morning — complete with opening presents together — can be incredibly special.

Afterwards, the children can enjoy lunch or dinner with extended family from each side.

If this arrangement works for your family, it can create lasting positive memories.

Some families even go the extra mile, co-ordinating gifts to avoid duplicates or agreeing on a shared present strategy.

While this approach isn’t for everyone, it’s worth considering if the situation allows.

Ultimately, the goal is to make Christmas a time of joy and love for your children, regardless of the circumstances.

By focusing on their needs and working with your co-parent, you can give them a holiday to cherish.

Marnie Parkinson is a senior lawyer at Greenstone Legal. She is based in Albany and Perth.